I wanted to come on here and address a problem with my twenty-nine year old son...?

I wanted to come on here and address a porblem with my twenty-nine year-old son, It's like he is


Almost possess by the devil. Claiming that I show his younger brothers more attention than I do


To him. I don't know what his problem is, he was 106th %26amp; Torrence one day trying to take his own


Life, because I told him that calling me a hypocrite, because I didn't agree with his views that


I contradict myself was a little derrogatory for him to call me a hypocrite. Now, he's mad, because


I got a boyfriend in my room with my door closed. I thought I was the parent, he the child. He got


Into it with a girl at Olive Harvey College, because she said that she was not like him or some


Stupid stuff and then he threw his bags to get attention from everybody, he threw tatnrums.


I told him that if he didn't want to accept that he can't get nobody to believe him about anything.


He should just go and kill himself anyway. The devil got him thinking that everyone is against Him.


I told him he can't go to film school with that attitude, because they will kill him or kick him out or


Both at the same time. Sometimes, I want to do that to him too, because he has this need for


Validation like someone owes him some kind of sense of ';entitlement,'; or something. He can


Never admit that that girl is supposed to talk sh*t to him, she's a woman and he got to take it.


So, what? I accused him of starting things between him and his brothers, because he is a known


Troublemaker and everybody in Jeffery Manor knows it. His brothers saw him logging onto some


Porn sites, after he came back from film school. I Thought that he was changed, one-year away


At Nyfa I guess didn't change him, a grown man still acting up, disobeying his mother, denying


Her the right to not believe him, when he said that they are getting onto porn sites, I told him


That they don't do that. I Think he needs serious mental help if he doesn't want to screw me, if


He doesn't want me to have a boyfriend, he should be mine. Momma needs her red wine and


Lots of men at her door. He's a whiner and I told him. Kill himself nobody would miss him,


Not even me. He's a sociopath hell bent on getting everyone to love him, when they don't.





So, How do I handle such a problem child like this? He's too old for this. How?I wanted to come on here and address a problem with my twenty-nine year old son...?
Wow lady, you are a nut and a half. No wonder your kid is screwed up. You are a horrible person and a horrible mother. Maybe instead of telling your son to kill himself maybe you should take a plunge off a cliff. You are completely insane; if you would look insane up in the dictionary your pic would be right there along with it. My personal advice to you is seek some therapy; not the once a week crap but find a therapist who is will to dedicated several hours a week to counsel you. You need it.I wanted to come on here and address a problem with my twenty-nine year old son...?
sounds like u r possesed by the devil and he is an eptey soul crying out he is your child for gods sakes have some compation
How do you deal with this? He is 29?





Tell him to get a job and move the out of your house. He is obviously spoiled, rotten. After that is done, turn the mirror and look at yourself real hard. His behavior didn't come out of nowhere, you obviously don't want more kids doing this.
Maybe you've spent his whole life telling him he is no good and worthless,therefore his behavior is down to you and they you treat him. You don't sound to nice to be honest.
Where is your devil now ma'am ?
first off im probilly gona get susspended for this but you sound like a ***** i mean telling you son to go kill himself what the hell is wrong with you, you prick? try yo help him not tell him to go kill himself..... I prove my point
He's a child in a man's body. What he wants from you you've never given him and he feels lost.





From the way you talk, I get a very strong impression that you are a very selfish person with very skewed ideas of relationships and the roles of men and women.





As children grow up they need guidance and practice on how to make good decisions and stand by them. They need encouragement to strengthen their confidence and appropriate punishment to teach them responsibility for their actions. If he's needy, it a good indication he got none of this growing up. Being a parent is not an entitlement for unquestioned obedience. Your children are watching you and they learn by your example.





Exploding because he's upset with you is just adding fuel to fire. He wants you to acknowledge his views just as you demand he accepts yours. Neither of you are going to get anywhere.





Parents are not always right and it's okay to let your children know when you realize you are wrong. It's okay for parents to apologize to their children if they've done something wrong. Children learn that dignity and respect are still intact when you confess your error and seek forgiveness. It's okay to let your children know you are entitled to your own space as well. But you need to let them know you still care for them and will be there always.





Your son is no longer a child, yet you continue the same mistakes. You keep manipulating him to behave the way you want and say what you want to hear. Your son does need validation. He needs to know the person most important to him is someone who will listen to him, whether you agree with him or not. He needs to hear 'Look, I care about you. But just because I love you does not mean I have to live my life for you. You need to talk, I'll listen. If we don't agree, then we don't agree. I'm sorry if you think I don't care for you as much as your brothers and sisters, but I do.' Each child has different personalities that need to be handled accordingly. Age becomes a factor as well.





You're a very cruel and selfish person and you're destroying your children with your selfish attitude.





I raised 2 children. We don't always agree, and that's okay. Even my son-in-law and I can get into some very heated debates. He can really get my 'goat' at times. Even though he can really irratate me, he also challenges me. Sometimes he's right, sometimes I am. Same with my own adult kids. My 22 year old is still learning independence. She'll ask for advice and guidance and I'll give it to her. It's up to her what she does with it, but at least she got more information to make a decision with. I never give advice to my kids with the expectation they must agree with me, or do it because I told them so. I make them think things through so they can come to their own conclusions. I give them food for thought, tell them what I think, or recount an experience I had. The final decision is theirs.





I sometimes get angry with my kids and visa versa. We all know that it's okay to be angry at times. We just don't hold that grudge forever. We communicate and get over it. I do not always have to be right just because I'm the parent. Sometimes I know I'm right and it's just not that important that I make them admit to them. I let them find out on their own because that's the best way for them to learn. Sometimes they are awestruck about the things I know and find out I'm not so dumb after all. My feelings are not hurt by it. If they don't believe me it's not going to effect my life.





My children have matured nicely and our relationships will continue to evolve. But it continues to do so peacefully and with respect for each other.
';I Think he needs serious mental help if he doesn't want to screw me, if He doesn't want me to have a boyfriend, he should be mine. Momma needs her red wine and Lots of men at her door.';





...Did you seriously just express the desire to have sex with your son? YOU are the one who needs serious mental help, cookie.
No one has the right to talk ';sh*t'; to another person, and no one has to put up with it.





Quote this is what you said!


';I told him that if he didn't want to accept that he can't get nobody to believe him about anything.


He should just go and kill himself anyway.'; ';Kill himself nobody would miss him, Not even me.';


Why would anyone tell someone to go kill themselves (especially a mother) is beyond me, no wonder he has problems. You seem to have a warped sense of what motherhood is.





You must have a low self-esteem, if you need to rely on ';red wine and lots of men at your door'; to manage life. What message do you think your sending your children here, that woman are something to be treated as chattels, something to be used and abused. Its a fair bet the boys will not have a good opinion of you.





Just because we don't agree with our children's opinions does not mean they are wrong or vice versa, by acknowledging their opinions, they will hopefully do the same to you. Treating our children with respect and love, no matter how old they are, they will treat you with respect and love too.





Model the behaviour you want your son/s to have, stop treating them with disrespect and they will learn to treat you with respect and respect their opinions and they will respect yours.
Break his plate and show him the door. He should have stopped minding your business and you his a decade ago.
You are his problem