Why does the guy always have to ask the girl out? why does the guy always have to be the one to initiate a?

conversation with a girl? why does the guy always have to do the ';first'; everything when it comes to dating, getting a girlfriend, hooking up, etc.? Why does the guy always have to start the talking and getting to know the girl? Why does the guy always have to approach the girl? Why does the guy always have to be the one to ask the questions? It's unfair, why do girls get to have it the easy way when it comes to dating and getting a boyfriend? girls are basically in cruise control when it comes to dating, getting a boyfriend, hooking up, etc. Also why do girls claim or say they have it harder when it comes to getting a boyfriend or dating or they have it just as hard as us guys do? WHY!?!!!!!!! THAT IS BULLSHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, all girls have to do is wait for a guy to approach them and initiate a conversation, and c'mon, it's easier to talk to people if the other person intiates the conversation and not you!!!!!!!!! it's easier to answer questions than it is to ask them when you are getting to know someone!!!!!!!!!!!!!! When it comes to dating, getting a boyfriend/girlfriend, hooking up with either sex, a guy has to know how to do this, a girl doesn't know how, she just gets it. A guy has to know how to get a girlfriend in order to get one, a girl doesn't need to know how to get a boyfriend, she just gets one. Even some girls have told me they believe they have it the easy way when it comes to dating or getting a boyfriend compared to guys when it comes to getting a girlfriend. The reason why I sound so frustrated and pissed off is because I am 20, almost 21, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, I have Asperger Syndrome, and I believe that is the main reason for the cause of all this.Why does the guy always have to ask the girl out? why does the guy always have to be the one to initiate a?
Don't quote me on this but for a long time Guys were the dominant gender in society and still are in some areas. Females could not go ahead and ask a guy out or choose her mate they would just prepare for their lives as a house wife or so. That is why I think guys usually ask the girls out even though times are changing. Don't get so worked up over it. Society still hasn't had enough time to adapt to the change in our culture.





*edit* a response to you- Yeah so what if its not fair but life isn't fair if it was we wouldn't have 1/10th of the problems we have today. You're going to have to learn to accept that. I know how it feels I'm not confident at all I'm 18 and never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl. I got the balls to actually try asking a few girls out and got laughed in my face pretty much. But i don't think that should hold me down, If I cant get a girlfriend now fine maybe one day I will be lucky enough to get one. I find it silly that your complaining so much over this when its not all girls sit around waiting to be asked out. I've seen plenty of situations where a girl walks up to a guy and ask him out. Just live your life, and keep walking forward don't run from your fears including rejection, or you will become a slave to it.Why does the guy always have to ask the girl out? why does the guy always have to be the one to initiate a?
Well, heck, buddy -





You're right about it all. Any girl who says otherwise is lying. Girls have their own set of problems like being ogled all the time by tons of disgusting men and worrying about being sexually assualted, but as far as normal dating goes, the ball is in our court. Totally not fair, but that's the way society works still.





Things are changing a liiiiiiiittle bit, though. Some girls will ask a guy out now. Some girls will initiate conversation. Some girls will even initiate for sex. But mostly, it's still up to you.





This isn't fair. But I'm not sure whining about it is going to help your situation any. Suck it up, and start talking to girls you like. Hopefully you'll find one who's on the egalitarian side and will make things easier for you once you start the conversation going.
You went a whole two days without asking this same old tired ';question'; and I was proud of you. Here you go again, just wording it different AGAIN! I wish I knew you for real so I could take you by the hand and show you what you have to do to just ask a girl out! You so have the right ideas but you just need to put them into place. Just do it please...
I've been asking this question for years. In my opinion, women are fragile creatures who are quite likely to fall apart at the first sign of rejection. I just don't see any other way to explain it...
What you are stating above is simply NOT TRUE!!


I have had three serious relationhsips and each of


those I had to initiate. You have to just go for it and


stop over thinking it. Girls do not have it easy!! I have


had the opposite experience in my life. I am very


attractive and I always had to inititate cause guys


were intinmidated. Dude you are only 21, that is


still so young! I think girls must sense desperation


in you and find it creepy :0 It seems to me a bit that


you view women as objects and not necessarily equals


to share your life with and anymore who has read all


your posts may agree. You need to be more sensitive


and talk to these girls like people and get to know them


and forget about having a girlfriend. Stop pushing things


and if you want a girl to come to you then wait, but if


you are like me and know what you want then go for it!


Stop being scared and wondering, there are many agressive


girls out there but it seems like you don't want that


cause girls that approach you as you've stated arent attractive


to you. Make it a goal to talk to girls a lot and don't ask creepy


questions like how to get a girlfriend or tell them you are


a virgin etc. My husband was a virgin till he was 23 and


now we are married and have a son. Stop worrying, talk to


women like PEOPLE and you
well i can't tell you where or when it actually started but it's just the societies way of being,tradition!, but in recent years this fact is changing step by step, why shouldn't a girl ask a guy out?, after all guys and girls are both humans and experience similar emotions, so i don't get why it's happening still and some girls have awkward way of socializing but i'm sure we are changing!


women weren't allowed to voice their opinions for so many years that when they had human urges to get together with a guy they liked they had to shut up and not say any thing for it was tabooed to do so. plus there are also some guys who have back ward and shuvinistic way of thinking and they don't like girls who ask them out, punks!


you're only 20, chillax man!!! and if you need advise on any thing else hollar at me!


chill
So...that's a bad thing? Girls like unicorns and rainbows and being chased by guys. Guys like racecars and things that go boom and chasing after girls. You get used to it after you're born...
anwser this one- why do guys act like chicken shits when they like someone, but they never have the balls do ask them out? Why do woman have to do all the work?
Erm hello this is 2008? Two- O - O - Eight? Girls do take the initiative okay.Girls do their part in the relationship by making it work, dope.