Friend told me why he does what he does (womanizes).Agree with his reason?Does he have a serious problem?

Now i myself i am not a big player or womanizer or anything like that. I do ok with women but not on the level he operates on.





We have been friends since i was 10 years old and we talk pretty much about everything. Well meet up a couple days ago and we where talking about whatever and i asked him how is doing with his current dealings with females ect.





Pretty much the same story i have heard hundreds of times in different variations with a different type of girl.The 1 night stands,the Milfs,girls with boyfriends and or married,fresh meat 18,19,model types,smart types,professionals ect.





Anyways recently he told me that he was out with this 1 new girl, and an old girl that he nailed and quit ran into him along with her brother.They made a pretty big drama but he was able to evaded it. I asked him if he doesn't fear some of those things since humans with hurt feelings can be dangerous. He said sure it can dangerous once in while but it's part of it.





He said for the most part people move on, but sometimes when you run into someone you hurt it can get a litle crazy depending on the girl, (Boyfriend,Brother relative,Friends ect)





One thing that i have never questioned him about was as to why he really does what does. I decided to do it this time in a serious tone and he just told me why he does it.





He said that while he enjoys what does he does, he does it in order to avoid the trap everyone falls into ';getting emotionally hurt';.He said by having as many options as possible he protects himself from someone cheating,dumping,or any other emotional ways you get hurt in a relationship.





So basically if someone decides to leave or whatever he has a couple options their in line waiting to replace that person and thus no pain.


Now i know at first he did it because of sex,thrill,power,and to prove a point to some of us (Friends).





I know he hurts a lot of people in life ie innocent women,boyfriends,husbands,families,ect. We had talked about this several times joking around in the past but he thinks it's god's karma.





He basically feels that if anybody who gets hurt threw him it is via god's karma. ';They deserve it and had coming to them';.He says ';those same people hurt others and will hurt again';


I always laughed at this by the way he said it, but then i then i know he's being really is serious about it.





I mean i don't think he as a problem but you wonder.I mean maybe thats who he is, but it just seems pretty hard to keep hurting lots of people and not have it effect you in any way at all.





Do you think he has problem? If so what can anybody do to help him? He's not asking for help it's just me and another friend just trying to maybe look out for him.





I mean besides STD's, you also got Angry hurt women,boyfriends,families ect, that can retaliate if he messes with the wrong person ie crazy types that seek revenge ect.








I'll catch you guys later.


JRFriend told me why he does what he does (womanizes).Agree with his reason?Does he have a serious problem?
I wouldn't do it myself but we can't judge that lifestyle, they CHOOSE to do so. Any hurting they get they CHOSE, unless he is lying to them, in which case he should stop that. As for the karma and whatnot, being hurt doesn't make it okay to hurt others. Ever.Friend told me why he does what he does (womanizes).Agree with his reason?Does he have a serious problem?
YOU TELL YOUR FRIEND NOT TO INDULGE FULLY IN THAT BAD WAY AND A TIME WILL COME TO BE SICK AND WILL GET VERY BAD DISEASES LEADING TO std etc


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There are a lot of such guys out there. He is scared to be in a real relationship and probably won't have one. He is hurting himself more than he is hurting others, because the others can move on or at least seek revenge from him. He will probably end up being a lonely middle aged fellow with STDs, who boasts around about his escapades and eventually drinks himself to death. I guess that is his karma.
Hi friend,





I'm very sorry to say that end of his days, his soul will suffer due to his karma's. Do you know about the Law of Karma ?.


'; Every Action there is Reaction'; so all those who he played and cheated and their cursed will back to him and he will suffer for his act maybe not in this birth but in another birth his soul will suffer for that.





His good account is still active that is why the God still leaving him in his way but when his good account is closed than he have to face his consequences. None can help him he have to face it.





I'm really serious about it, if you don't believe me someday you'll realise what i've told you is true. Ask your friend, is he sleeping peacefully every night. Internally he is suffering in pain too much which he can't talk out and keeping it in the form of EGO. EGO is a dangerous enemy for a man.





Leave it bro , Take care and you concentrate in doing dharma, it will help you and save your family and your kids life in future :) What i'm telling you is the truth.





Take care


Sharan
He has a problem. He is pathological. I'm willing to go so far as to say he may be mentally unstable. To blame his actions and the hurt that he causes on god and karma really speaks volumes about this guy's emotional maturity to say the least. Funny thing is, it's not on the ladies' karma, what he does to them, it is all on his. And someday, that's going to be tallied and it's not going to go well for him. I personally could not be friends with someone who was so cold and cruel and just a downright a**hole. You know, the whole birds of a feather thing....I wouldn't want to be associated with that type of flock.
So you see...he is an under-confident, insecure LOSER.


You thought he was this big bad player when in reality...





...he is just a SCARED LITTLE BABY.





LOL Give him a ba-ba AFTER you give him a year's supply of Valtrex - he's gonna need both.
I don't really have a lot of sympathy for the people your friend is jacking with. Players don't like the long hunt, they are looking for an easy score. If these women are going to whore themselves out than while they might not ';deserve'; to be hurt they have certainly placed themselves into a position to be taken advantage of.





Bottom line..if you want a serious relationship and want to make sure the guy is interested don't put out for a month +. If he is sticking around, calls a lot, asks you to go out (doesn't make a ton of excuses why he can't) than chances are you aren't dealing with a player. Common sense folks.
Hello --





Yes your buddy has a problem! He is immature and afraid. That kind of thing happens sometimes.





Be the best friend you can and with a little luck you will be there to help him grow up. In the mean time you might want to let him understand that you have his best interests at heart when you disapprove of his womanizing.





Hope you are okay,





Bill
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